The following excerpt is from the self help
psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.
The role of the elders in our society has changed dramatically
in the last 30 years. Physically, many are in their own living
spaces instead of being in a home with their children and
grandchildren. They have the money to live by themselves that
they did not have years ago. Their children/ grandchildren often
have less money, for there has been a significant shift in
disposable income toward senior citizens in the past 30 years.
The gain in autonomy for senior citizens, on the one hand, has
been a boon for their mental health. On the other hand, they
have not all been successful at finding a meaningful life away
from children and grandchildren. This has caused them much
distress, unhappiness and poor health. (The down-side for their
children's families has been the loss of another parenting
figure for children, the loss of household help and the loss of
|Families in therapy together? Yes, often the most effective treatment for some or all family members is family therapy.|
For those getting to be very old, it is a major difficult step
to realize that their path is to be "selfish and self-centered"
as they review what has happened in their lives. Some of them
ask the question, "Why am I still here?" The answer (from a
higher-self/reincarnation framework) could be couched in the
phrase growth opportunities:
"You have no excuse now for failing to examine many of your old
ideas and beliefs, because you don't have to perform for others
now. Therefore, you are freer to explore new ways of thinking
and feeling. You have the opportunity to let go of judgments, to
be present in the moment (because you don't have to go
elsewhere), to decide to love the people around you no matter
what, to be exactly who you are (i.e., be authentic), and to be
All of the above are traits commonly exhibited by contented
people. The elderly, being autonomous with time on their hands,
have many personal growth opportunities.** This makes their
higher selves jump for joy in anticipation. On the other hand,
growth is often difficult and the elderly might like to utter,
along with the rest of us, "more @#$%^ growth opportunities."
Did God or your-higher-self select your family as your best
teachers? If you are still bothered by a few family members,
perhaps you haven't learned all that they have to teach.
More Excerpts This Chapter
ARE 97% OF FAMILIES NEUROTIC?
TRAUMATIZING CHILDREN - 97% OF THEM?
ARE WE REALLY HUMANE?
OUR CURRENT FAMILIES BRING OUT OUR SKEWNESS
MOTHERS CAN BE SEXIST TOO
MANY MEN STILL ABDICATE THEIR PARENTING ROLES
WORKING MOMS - ARE THEIR KIDS OK?
LATCHKEY CHILDREN DON'T DO AS WELL
THE SEARCH FOR APPROVAL
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