MANY MEN STILL ABDICATE THEIR PARENTING ROLES

The following excerpt is from the self help
psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.


Many men still underestimate the importance of and necessity for a strongly-involved male parenting role and the self-satisfaction one derives from it. This was not always the case. Until the early 1800s, most child-rearing manuals were directed at men, who then did have the say about child-rearing. With the advance of industrialization, the father was more and more removed from the home. The result was that mothers made more of the child-rearing decisions. Men really lost an important part of the human existence with this shift. Whenever we lose parts of ourselves, it acts like trauma, and we become stressed until we regain that part of ourselves.


If most pornography bothers you, then I suggest you start changing yourself instead of attempting to "reform" others.

My guess is that this loss of parenting expertise is an important factor why men do not live as long as women. For it was also in the early 1800s that women first started living longer than men. Perhaps there will be someone who will do the research here. Do fathers who are full participants in raising their children live longer than fathers who leave such matters to their wives?


No matter the results of such longevity research, parental abdication by men remains a root cause of many of our society's ills. At all levels of schooling, on television, and from both women and men, there needs to be increased and persistent demands for male parenting responsibility. Many movies and television programs are now often showing the joys and pleasures of male parenting, and schools are now providing much-needed parenting training. Millions of women are now loosening a few parental reins. Millions of men are now emotionally available to their children. We have come a long way. We can celebrate what we have accomplished as a society without forgetting that there is more to be done.

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   EFFECTIVE PARENTING
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   MOTHERS CAN BE SEXIST TOO
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