The following excerpt is from the self help
psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.
The second core element in trauma knots that is frequently
bypassed is that of hurt (and its relatives of pain,
abandonment, loss, emptiness, depression, dullness, grief,
sadness and aloneness). Who really wants to feel these feelings?
YOU DO! If you want to move through and beyond your traumas,
then these must be felt. You will be forever trying to avoid
situations and events that trigger your traumas and the hurts
within those traumas if you are unwilling to feel the hurting
aspects of being human. It is an unwelcome fact that unwanted
situations that trigger our trauma knots will happen despite our
efforts at avoidance. Did you know that millions now believe
that such avoidance draws those unhappy experiences to us? (See
Any blame I feel about today's life events is a clear indicator that I am avoiding my own issues.|
Am I stuck in hurt? If I am hurt a lot by current events in my
life, I am probably stuck trying to avoid childhood hurts (or
other elements of trauma knots, particularly hatred). If feeling
my hurt doesn't ease it and eventually eliminate it, then I am
stuck. If I still feel hurt by any past experience, then I have
therapy work to do.
Frequently the operative words of the inner child that help
move us through hurt feelings are "You hurt me when you.....".
Such words often bring us immediately into our feelings of
grief, which will often be enough to release a trauma knot
permanently, particularly if the hatred about that trauma has
already been felt.
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