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The following excerpt is from the self help
psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.

The second core element in trauma knots that is frequently bypassed is that of hurt (and its relatives of pain, abandonment, loss, emptiness, depression, dullness, grief, sadness and aloneness). Who really wants to feel these feelings? YOU DO! If you want to move through and beyond your traumas, then these must be felt. You will be forever trying to avoid situations and events that trigger your traumas and the hurts within those traumas if you are unwilling to feel the hurting aspects of being human. It is an unwelcome fact that unwanted situations that trigger our trauma knots will happen despite our efforts at avoidance. Did you know that millions now believe that such avoidance draws those unhappy experiences to us? (See next chapter.)

Any blame I feel about today's life events is a clear indicator that I am avoiding my own issues.

Am I stuck in hurt? If I am hurt a lot by current events in my life, I am probably stuck trying to avoid childhood hurts (or other elements of trauma knots, particularly hatred). If feeling my hurt doesn't ease it and eventually eliminate it, then I am stuck. If I still feel hurt by any past experience, then I have therapy work to do.

Frequently the operative words of the inner child that help move us through hurt feelings are "You hurt me when you.....". Such words often bring us immediately into our feelings of grief, which will often be enough to release a trauma knot permanently, particularly if the hatred about that trauma has already been felt.

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   HEALING
   THE FUTURE

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