The following excerpt is from the self help
psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.

To change fears may take therapy, either with or without a paid therapist. Four typical fears are: (1)I can't trust my spontaneity because I might do myself harm, (2)I won't be accepted if I laugh hard or play joyfully, (3)Creativity is often the work of the devil and (4)I fear I won't be accepted if I enjoy myself because there are starving people in Africa. Most of us learned such fears as children. Therefore, these fears may take some therapeutic work. Chapters 8-11 will provide some means of eliminating such fears. Seeing them as unwanted and invalid, however, can be an important therapeutic step toward their elimination. (I have not included "love" on the previous list of sparkling qualities, because fear and trauma are usually present in those lacking love. For more on manifesting love, see Chapter 9.)

Men's happiness in life is the result of man's own efforts... Ch'en Tu-Hsiu 1918

This chapter will try to change ignorance, which may be all that is required to allow the flowering of more spontaneity, creativity and fun. Three common ignorant unhappy beliefs are: (1)If I face my traumas, pleasure will automatically follow, (2)I can't be happy until all my traumas have been resolved and (3)It is wrong to experience fun or to be playful since there is so much pain and suffering in the world. If you have any of these unhappy beliefs, changing them is essential. Perhaps all that will be required is to consciously recognize them as wrong for you.

Growth Exercise. Try right now to jot down why you may have lost the attributes of spontaneity, humor, laughter, creativity and play. Parents, churches, schools, work environments and societal pressures are typical "causes" of such losses. You may discover a few beliefs that (1)were incorporated in childhood without conscious thought and (2)conflict with the expression of these positive qualities today. Ask yourself if you still believe that way today. If there is significant trauma instead of just ignorance associated with creativity, spontaneity, fun and laughter, these qualities will be more difficult for you to manifest.

Frequently, the first growth step is to acknowledge the conflict within, between the old unhappy (often unconscious) childhood belief and the conscious adult belief of today.

Growth Tip. Create your own list of positive sayings and repeat them aloud often. "I deserve play," "Creativity is one of life's exquisite spices" and "Laughter is OK" are examples of happier adult beliefs that counter old childhood training. Even the old "every day I am getting better and better" can be valuable if oft repeated. Whenever the old unhappy way arises, it is useful and frequently therapeutic to reaffirm consciously such happier adult beliefs.

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Don't wait for some day in the future to start on your road to creativity and spontaneity. Now is the best time to start, while it is on your mind.

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