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The following excerpt is from the self help
psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.


1. We do not understand each other well, and that is OK.

2. We will never fully understand each other. That too is OK.

3. If we feel badly about someone not understanding, then it is our responsibility to change our feelings. This may prove to be a challenging therapeutic task.

4. When we are confronted calmly with our supposed lack of understanding, what is required of us is a willingness to listen.

5. What is also required is finding the courage and ability to talk calmly with those who don't seem to understand us, provided they are important people to us.


In summary, expecting or needing understanding from others is a trap that causes much unhappiness for those so ensnared. To disengage from this trap may prove difficult and time-consuming, but definitely worthwhile.

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