BLAMING OTHERS DISEASE

The following excerpt is from the self help
psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.


The tendency for groups to blame others for their difficulties is so widespread that at times it seems almost universal. While we often do this as individuals, blaming others for our personal problems, it as members of groups that we excel in this accusatory trait. It is one of the major neurotic (i.e., skewed) reasons why we join groups. They often provide refuge for us with like-minded people who will agree with us that our problems are out there instead of within. If there any perceived truth in our blame of a particular target, then we are often quick to place all the blame on that target. This excuses us from looking at ourselves. How convenient!


Its name is Public Opinion. It is held in reverence. It settles everything. Some think it is the voice of God... Mark Twain 1925

Verbal bashing is rarely seen as a trap. There is a sense of being on the side of justice, and the process of bashing seems to make one feel better (temporarily at least). Unfortunately, this process is no better than making oneself feel better by smoking, by drinking, or by another addictive behavior. Why? Essentially, bashing just releases steam without facing one's real issues beneath the anger. (A stage of blame is necessary, but is not effective when directed at people/ groups of today - see chapters 9 & 10.) In all likelihood, bashing will produce a painful backlash. Confirmed bashers will feel righteously indignant about the backlash and often trap themselves into more bashing. VERBAL BASHING IS A TRAP!


Finding Out About Our Own Groups Exercise

(1)Make a list of all the groups to which you belong. (2)For each of these groups, think of who is excluded. (3)Think of ways you can be appreciative of each of those who are excluded (this may be tough - these are often our most unpopular Earth School teachers)

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Celebration Time: If we are such a sexist society why do men vote as much as they do for women candidates? Why do blacks with a B+ high school average have a better chance than whites of entering college?

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