The following excerpt is from the self help
psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.
Once we are traumatized, we carry the unresolved trauma with us forever, unless we can somehow get the trauma knot untied by therapy or another personal growth method. (Also, life experience will often untie many knots without significant effort on our parts.) If unresolved, the trauma typically shows up later in life as stress.
A Specific Example of Later Sexual Stress - for those sexually molested as children, sexuality carries with it an amount of unhealthy stress as a child that typically carries over to adulthood. If sexual situations come into their lives, the unresolved sexual traumas are also immediately there in their unconscious minds, waiting in the wings trying to get resolved. This is felt as tension and stress. To relieve this tension, sex frequently becomes an arena for acting out, either by circumscribing sexual behavior or by being promiscuous. Both these sexual strategies temporarily lower stress levels without helping to resolve the trauma. Other addictive behavior (such as drinking, smoking, overeating, etc.) may be used instead to reduce the stress levels caused by sexual situations, similarly without lasting benefit in terms of resolving the trauma.
| The useful molehills of psychological knowledge are often obscured by the mountains of psychological claptrap now available.|
Stress may appear later as fear, anxiety, jumpiness, insomnia, panic, or pain in the body such as a headache or backache. (These are psychosomatic aches if caused by stress). Stress is a major factor in most such psychosomatic complaints.
|Trauma (large or small) that we have not resolved shows up as smoking, drinking, overweight, tension, numbing, or etc.|
More Excerpts This Chapter
Psychology K.I.S.S.= KEEP IT SIMPLE STUPID (directions from me to me)
THE NATURE OF TRAUMA
YOUR WISH IS MY COMMAND
THE SEARCH FOR APPROVAL
REDUCING/RESOLVING STRESS = THERAPY RESULT
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Book Table of Contents
Psychology of Sex Education - Psychological Sexual Health Care
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