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The below excerpt is from the self help psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.
ANGER KEEPS COMING BACK
My Problem Is That My Anger Keeps Coming Back. This is a clear
indicator that the issue has not been resolved. Your anger is
skewed. It is either off target, and/or the wrong emotion is
being expressed. Yes, this does imply that I consider much of
the socially-correct bashing so common these days to be skewed,
neurotic or off-target (you pick the adjective).
It has been my experience that my clients' anger difficulties
most often have their roots in childhood trauma knots that my
clients do not wish to face. The part of those trauma knots that
is most often avoided is hatred, childhood hatred. Until those
clients are willing to feel that hatred, they continue to have
difficulties with anger. Facing that aspect of trauma is
discussed in the next chapter of this book.
| Anger is ALWAYS based upon unfulfilled expectations; fully let go of the expecting, and your anger will be no more.
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Emotionally Healthy Adults (with respect to
anger)
1. are comfortable with anger and hatred, their own and others.
2. do get angry or fearful when physically threatened
(fight/flight).
3. generally do not get angry when verbally attacked.
4. are able to change their responses. This implies that the
next time an identical angry-making circumstance occurs
(except #2 above), they do not get angry.
5. get angry rarely. Once they express the anger, it does not
return.
6. do not dredge up old arguments because that old anger is
long gone. They are genuinely able to forgive.
Obviously, few of us achieve the above. Nevertheless, you will
be much happier the closer you are able to duplicate the
above anger responses of emotionally healthy adults. Do you want to make it your personal long term
goal to change some of your anger responses?
Other Anger & Rage Pages:
Ragetips and Hatetips
Q&A @ Anger & Hate
Anger Management = Stress
Next Emotions Excerpt 
More Excerpts This Chapter
EMOTIONAL HEALTH = MENTAL HEALTH
ANGER AND OUTRAGE
HOLDING ON TO THE RAGE
ANGER KEEPS COMING BACK
LOVE 1 2
SADNESS
FEAR
STUCK FEELINGS
SKEWED EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION IS RAMPANT
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| Even simple-appearing trauma knots are often complex, usually resisting being untied by a few simple insights or quick fixes.
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