The below excerpt is from the self help psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.|
Human Sexuality - Adult/Teen Sex Education
SEX (as defined and described by a man): fun, raucous, wild,
lusty, playful, ecstatic, hot, sweaty, spontaneous,
SEX (as defined and described by a woman):
The human sexuality sphere is one in which many men and women tend to
judge the opposite sex as not being OK. Most making such sex
judgments would feel better and be happier if they adopted some
of the opposite sex's ideas about sex via their own personal sex education.
Which of the above definitions of sex/sexuality most fit you? While those
two definitions are, of course, gross exaggerations, they
contain significant truth, even today.|
Women have received more
negative training and sexual education about their human sexuality than men. To have a
primary belief that one's human sexuality is serious first and
pleasurable a distant second causes the loss of much pleasure in
many sexual processes.
That sexuality belief also leads to much putting
down of men for their "frivolous" sex behavior, not just because of
serious consequences that men might be overlooking but because
"human sex should be serious and you men don't treat it seriously
enough." In other words, to be lusty, wild or playful is not OK human sexuality.
|Q: Concerning contraception, who
carries the greater responsibility?|
|Q: Concerning abortion, who should
have the right to decide?|
|Your dreadful sexual dream last night indicates that you have human sexual lessons to learn, not necessarily that you need to enact the dream's contents.|
The current emphasis on wild women seems exactly right to me.
It reflects the increasing human awareness among women that they can
change themselves. Let's celebrate the growing number of women
who have found that it is better to empower themselves by
eliminating their own unhappiness than to remain unhappily
dependent upon the adage "men should change." It is popular with
some women to bash male sexuality, but such bashing often seems
an attempt to obscure women's difficulties with the topic. Those
women who bash men's sexuality often deny they have difficulties
with their own wild sexual enjoyment. Human compassion (for men and
women) would be a happier state for such women and also more
effective in eliciting changes in men. Let's celebrate some of
the newer feminists who are expressing more human compassion.
This page really suggests you enjoy your lust (below pic? male pic here) AND also be serious about your sexuality.