The following excerpt is from the self help
psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.
Differences in the definition of "sexual experience" have led
in recent times to significant miscommunication about Rape. It
has become common to say that Rape is not a sexual experience.
Such a statement makes sense to most women, who identify with
the helplessness facing such an inhuman power trip and with the
pain of being so tortured. Typically, there is not one ounce of
sexual pleasure. It feels like torture and is torture. The
experience does not feel sexual. On the other hand, many men
disbelieve the words, "Rape is not a sexual experience." Their
gut reaction is, "of course it is a sexual experience!" If one
defines "sexual experience" as an experience involving the
genitalia, their reaction is valid. Obviously, "sexual
experience" is being defined differently.
|Even simple-appearing trauma knots are often complex, usually resisting being untied with a few simple insights or quick fixes.
A current question asked by some men reveals that they don't
understand some current feminist thinking. The question is, "How
can there be no distinctions between Rape, date-Rape and husband
Rape?" Fortunately, many women are now speaking out about the
It has become virtually impossible to voice any differing ideas
about this emotionally volatile subject (Rape) without being
labeled as insensitive or worse. There are differing opinions
out there, but as in the case of the pro-life/ pro-choice clash,
genuine discussion and acceptance of differences (which might
lead to positive joint action) seems to be prevented by the
Labeling one another as straight, gay, bisexual, etc seems very important to many. But it can be a trap because of lack of clearcut distinctions and lack of awareness that sometimes our desires will change over time. |
More Excerpts This Chapter
Psychology of Sex Education - Psychological Sexual Health Care
The Caviar of Sex
What About Your Dreadful Sexual Dream Last Night?
Overcoming Our Puritan Heritage
Sex By The Scorecard
Do We Choose Our Sexual Preferences?
Treatment Of Gay Men, Lesbians And Bisexuals
Achieving A Calmer Pornography Viewpoint 1
Sex & The Catholic Church
Sex Therapy We All Received
Women And Men Will Never Be The Same Sexually
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