I GET EXACTLY WHAT I NEED
The following excerpt is from the self help
psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.
A very freeing (and at times incredibly challenging) belief is:
there are reasons why I get each life problem and challenge.
Whatever the universe gives me in terms of benefits, disasters,
people, losses, challenges, money and diseases are in my life
for reasons specific to me. They are there now because I need
them there now. They are the best possible teachers for me here
on Earth School now.
These days my friends and I often jokingly call our upsets and
disasters "more #$&*@ growth opportunities." This does imply
that there is a higher power or god or unconscious part of
ourselves who/ which knows what we need and is arranging it.
(Our conscious minds would never go along with selecting many of
the disasters.) Whatever discomforts we get, they are there to
spur our growth and change, not to be blamed upon so-called
"perpetrators". (Not that it wouldn't be beneficial for the
"perpetrators" to change. But if they change before we
accomplish the growth they are providing us the opportunity for,
then we will probably just manifest new "perpetrators" into our
lives so that we may accomplish our needed growth.) It often is
anything but a simple process to change our responses to these
#$&*@ growth opportunities. Such change can take anywhere from a
few moments to years.
Much of today's science depends upon the idea of "random chance." Few scientists are aware of how human consciousness can interfere with many scientific results that supposedly "must" be random.|
Caution: Others in the midst of some disaster will not
appreciate your words describing how perfect the disaster is for
them! They will need to feel and express in their own ways,
whatever those ways may be. It is later, when they appear stuck,
(and have already expressed many words and feelings about the
experience), that the possibility arises to gently ask about the
positive learning side of what has happened. Your most effective
communication with them will depend upon their spiritual belief
systems. Few in this culture believe in the perfection of who
they are and of what they get. Therefore, the best questions are
often, "What is the positive side of this?" or "What have you
learned from this?" If you are communicating with a
reincarnation believer or a strong believer in a particular
religion, on the other hand, questions about their learning or
about the perfection of a disaster can be asked much earlier.
Please note the complete lack of victim mentality in the
statement, I get exactly what I need. The challenge is to move
through a problem so that it is no longer a problem rather than
remain stuck in feeling victimized. If someone in my life is
doing something that causes me significant distress, then my
challenge is most often not to stop them but to change my
responses so that the next time I will not be adversely
affected. Challenging? Yes! But I have retained my power (and
part of the exercise of my power may be to move out of unhealthy
circumstances). If my happiness depends upon them changing, then
I have given away my power. When some discomfort or disaster
arises, believing absolutely in its necessity for me will lead
me to the new learning I need now. Then, when I have learned the
lesson(s), the discomfort will ease.
Many politicians, doctors, lawyers and politically-correct groups would prefer that you NOT read this chapter.|
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ONE-TIME-AROUND VS. REINCARNATION
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THIS IS A SAFE UNIVERSE
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