VENTILATION IS NOT ENOUGH

The following excerpt is from the self help
psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.


One important ingredient of many talk therapies is full expression (ventilation) of one's problems and difficulties. Instead of cursing out the boss or my child, I attempt to fully ventilate my thoughts, ideas, words, frustration, rage and angst in my therapy session. Thus, I avoid blurting it out at targets for whom prudence might dictate silence.


Authoritarian messages are crucial if we are to change society's violent trends. Such trends start with authoritarian messages given by parents to their children.

As with all good things, however, ventilation can be overworked and overused. I have met a few clients who have tried to elevate ventilation into being 100% of what therapy is all about. They attempted to turn each session into a long-winded complaint session. "This is awful" and "I am a victim" are the common beliefs that predominate. Those clients were accustomed to using therapy as a feel-good-temporarily tool. They were not appreciative when confronted with the addictive qualities of their behavior. Ventilation is usually just a beginning step in therapy.

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Full expression (ventilation) of one's thoughts and emotions is often a useful step in therapy. But one must also CHANGE and not be stuck ventilating the same stuff over and over.

More Excerpts This Chapter
   RECOMMENDED GOAL OF THERAPY: INNER PEACE
   DON'T GIVE ALL YOUR PERSONAL POWER TO A THERAPIST
   THERAPISTS WILL DISAGREE WITH THESE WORDS
   FINDING A THERAPIST - SETTING THERAPY GOALS
   LIFE IS LUMPY
   CHANGES, SELF-GROWTH AND THERAPY DON'T ALWAYS TICKLE
   VENTILATION IS NOT ENOUGH
   SUFFERING SMARTER IS DUMB
   EACH THERAPY HAS ITS OWN LIMITS
   ALL PEOPLE DO NOT HAVE THE SAME MOTIVATIONS
   FEELINGS
   THERAPISTS IN THERAPY
   LEMON THERAPISTS
   OUR SOCIETY IS ON THE RIGHT TRACK
   MISSING FROM THIS BOOK
   YOUR PERFECT THERAPY


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