YOU HURT MY FEELINGS- THEREFORE YOU SHOULD CHANGE

The following excerpt is from the self help
psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.


Such is the trap into which millions of us fall, blaming others for our hurt feelings and making demands upon them for change. This is very similar to the preceding "You make me unhappy" trap which only leads to giving away of personal power, a continued lack of self-esteem and more power in the hands of those who so "hurt your feelings". To choose not to make one's happiness dependent upon others leads to real empowerment. And it is possible!

But the possibility must first be recognized, secondly accepted as something desirable and thirdly actively pursued. The goal is to change from being hurt to being OK with whatever situation causes my hurts so that I am not hurt the next time that situation occurs. Do you want to be so empowered? Examination of similar childhood hurts will probably be the key to not being hurt next time.

Most people these days think that nasty names "naturally" hurt folks. Such erroneous thinking is causing huge amounts of societal unhappiness.
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   THE TYRANNY OF JUDGMENTS
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   SIZE AND CONTENTS OF THE UNCONSCIOUS
   NATURE VS. NURTURE VS. LIFEPLAN
   THE PERFECTION THAT YOU ARE NOW
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   YOU'LL SEE IT WHEN YOU BELIEVE IT
   YOU GET WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN
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