The below excerpt is from the self help psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.
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POPULAR IDEAS MAY BE HARMFUL TO YOUR HAPPINESS


In this book I intend to challenge many popular unhappiness-causing ideas and to support "wrong" views of such ideas, perhaps occasionally causing offense. I consider this necessary. For the areas of our lives that contain unhappiness will usually only be changed by challenge. Many popular ideas of today are unhappy ideas. If you hold such unhappy ideas, the ultimate goal of inner peace is not attainable. I hope that you, the reader of this book, will experience much growth and therapy while reading it.

How you respond to seemingly "wrong" ideas is important, for many of us tend to throw out the baby with the bathwater. If thoughts like "he should know better" or "that is stupid" float through your mind, you are making judgments. A more neutral response like "I don't agree with that" is a happier non-judgmental choice.

Most of us psychologically are like fixer-upper houses, structurally sound but with a number of possible psychology improvement projects.

Haven't you ever noticed that your negative judgments about people or ideas either (1) make you unhappy or (2) serve as largely unsuccessful attempts to boost your low self-esteem? Therefore, do you really want to judge others? (See Chapter 8 for more on judgments, the unhappiness resulting from them and how to stop making so many of them.)


The result of our people-judgments is that we often throw away someone's ideas because they are voiced by the wrong person or because we don't totally agree with all their ideas. Just because I may espouse a few seemingly wrong ideas does not mean that everything I say is useless. I doubt that there is a person alive who will agree with everything I write in this book. When you find yourself not in agreement, I recommend that you (1)enjoy the differences between us, (2)play with my ideas mentally, and (3)evaluate which of them might prove happier for you despite their supposed wrongness.

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