The below excerpt is from the self help psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.
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WE ARE LIKE FIXER-UPPER HOUSES

Most of us consider ourselves to be "just fine except for that one problem" that is difficult to deny (or 2-3 problems). "If only that one would clear up, things would be almost perfect!" Actually, the vast majority of us experience dozens and dozens of unhappy/ upsetting/ irritating events every week. Each of these is a potential handyman project for us. Psychologically we are like fixer-upper houses, structurally sound but showing needs for a variety of repairs.

Emotionally healthy adults are comfortable saying the words I love you to men, women, and children in a feeling way.

When you read this book, you may discover seventy-five or more potential growth areas for yourself. Do not feel badly about such a large number, for most everyone else is in the same condition. Most of these "repairs" can be at least partially completed by you without help from a paid therapist. Each one that you are able to accomplish will leave you feeling calmer and more able to enjoy life. But each takes time. Therefore, give yourself permission to take as much time as you need, years if necessary.

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   POPULAR IDEAS MAY BE HARMFUL TO YOUR HAPPINESS
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   HELP FOR YOUR PROBLEMS?
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   LET ME BE YOUR GURU
   FOLLOW YOUR OWN YELLOW BRICK ROAD
   FIND YOUR OPTIMUM THERAPEUTIC FOCUS
   BEING YOUR OWN THERAPIST
   THERE ARE MANY CHOICES
   BEING GRATEFUL AND APPRECIATIVE

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One recurring attribute of people who have happiness (or inner peace or contentment) is the attribute of being grateful and appreciative for what is all around them. Do you need to develop this for yourself?