The below excerpt is from the self help psychology book, Be Your Own Therapist.
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LET ME BE YOUR GURU
(Please remember to send lots of money.)

Sheldon Kopp's book title, If You Meet the Buddha on the Road, Kill Him, most succinctly expresses my beliefs about the value of most gurus. Thinking of ourselves as The Knowledgeable Ones is a thought trap into which therapists sometimes fall. Understandably so, for there is knowledge (about ways of being happier and feeling better) which hopefully we possess in greater quantity than those whom we serve. On the other hand, I do believe there are a few genuine useful gurus out there. I think true gurus have many attributes in common with Gandhi: they are not in the business of acquiring money or materials, and they preach neither fear nor judgments. If these attributes fit your guru, then perhaps you have found the real thing.

Self help is useful for most any psychological problem, but patience as well as dedication is usually required before the good stuff materializes.

The more I do the work of therapy, the less I seem to know what path is right for clients (i.e., how to be their guru). Yet, I seem to be effective in assisting them to find their own individual paths. While as a country we tend to be supportive of some individualism, this acceptance is limited. Unique individuals in pursuit of very different lifestyles often find their unhappy ways to my office. Frequently they are unhappy because they are trying to fit some societal, family or personal norm that is totally inappropriate for them as individuals. For example, loners often get little acceptance from society or even from many other therapists. Yet, for many loners, being alone is not only their preferred mode but their best mode. The question for them is not, "When are you going to become more involved with people?" but instead, "What is the right level of aloneness for you?".

If you have read this far, you have already exposed yourself to some different ideas and beliefs that may require sorting, sifting and detailed examination. A frequent reaction of my clients to therapy sessions is thinking about the session for many hours afterwards. This book can affect you, the reader, similarly. If it does, then you are already on the road to becoming your own guru, doing 90+% of your personal growth work (i.e., therapy).

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   HELP FOR YOUR PROBLEMS?
   WE ARE LIKE FIXER-UPPER HOUSES
   LET ME BE YOUR GURU
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   FIND YOUR OPTIMUM THERAPEUTIC FOCUS
   BEING YOUR OWN THERAPIST
   THERE ARE MANY CHOICES
   BEING GRATEFUL AND APPRECIATIVE

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